Dating by texting
All this begs the question: how do we most effectively date in the digital world?Fortunately, we rounded up some dating experts to spill on how to become the most tech-savvy dater you can be.Thirty-one percent of men and women met their last date online (as opposed to six percent in a bar), 34 percent of daters in their 20s expect a response to a text in under 10 minutes (!
Do not assume that getting a bunch of texts from a guy means you are having a relationship. If a man is choosing to only text or primarily text, he’s not showing signs of wanting to get to know you in a meaningful way. Whether it’s because they found someone else, were just playing or because they got scared — that’s 100% immaterial. You feel like you are getting to know one another, but that is not what’s happening.
Over the past few years it seems that almost every dating dilemma I hear from my coaching clients and girlfriends has something to do with the texting. He told her how busy he was and she felt flattered that he was keeping in touch.
Texting and dating definitely isn’t just for 20 year olds anymore. “Melissa” stayed up until 3 AM texting with her dude. She wants to know how to stop obsessing over him being The One.
Why should he take you out to dinner when he feels he can adequately entertain you [for free] by sending intriguing text messages?
Think about it and let me give you the 411 as to why texting has tainted the beauty and pleasure that encases the dating process: There is no fun in sitting down and getting to know someone if you already know the majority of the details about him or her.Also, it conveys that she doesn’t have friends, doesn’t do anything, and isn’t active.